More Often More Better

Why do women insist on comparing their relationships to their childhood fantasies or something they saw in a romantic comedy? Grow some balls and have your own metrics for romantic success. This goes for guys too.

How about we agree to appreciate a relationship for what it is. Celebrate the fact that two mutually compatible people actually found each other in this giant world! Celebrate the fact that two people are willing to try and make each other happy with the emotional tools that they possess! Celebrate the fact that it was real life, and not a movie or a book. And then don't compare it to a movie or a book.

A person might be doing everything they know how to do to communicate love, caring and affection but because it doesn't quite line up with some broody childhood fantasy it gets ignored. This is fucked.

Ladies. Gentlemen. Can we agree to appreciate our partners for doing the best they can without comparison to arbitrary measures of romance. Smart happy people recognize that partners show love in the way they best know how, not through the words of a screenwriter through a director, through a key grip through a cameraman through Hugh Grant. If you want your partner to give you more better more often, reward their sincerity rather than try to change it into a form that's more convenient to you.

Seriously.